Carol Stoehr Setten, 56, of Ridgewood, NJ and Madison, CT died December 10th, after a brief illness. Carol was the beloved wife of Christopher J Setten, cherished mother of Andrew, Charles and Mariel. Devoted daughter of Mary Bradshaw and the late William P. Stoehr. Kind and caring sister to William P., Jr. (Eva), Peter (Angela), James (Lesley), Christine McNamara (Dan), and Eileen Young (John). Dear daughter-in law of Adele Setten and the late Richard Setten, sister in law of Julie Hicks (David), Jennifer, Alec (Lisa), Michelle McCabe(Kieran).
Beloved aunt to numerous nieces and nephews.
Carol was born in Brooklyn, NY on September 11, 1962. She attended St Ephrem’s school. She moved with her family to Ridgewood NJ in 1972. She graduated from Ridgewood HS class of ’80, before attending Curry College in Milton, MA. She continued her education at CUNY (John Jay College) where she studied forensic psychology in the BA/MA program.
Carol met the love of her life Christopher, while living in Boston and they married in 1994. Sons Andrew and Charles arrived shortly thereafter.
Carol’s generosity and selfless nature were characteristics that defined her. She was consistently vigilant in ensuring that others’ needs were paramount to her own. In 2004, she donated a kidney to her brother, Peter. In 2009, she spread her love by adopting a six year old special needs child, Mariel, from China. If that wasn’t enough, Carol worked tirelessly on behalf of the Elks Organization spearheading charitable fundraisers and events including veterans’ causes, drug awareness and college scholarship programs.
Carol enjoyed her beach house in Madison, CT and loved spending time there entertaining family and friends, listening to classical music, sunbathing and swimming in the Long Island Sound. Carol was an avid reader and particularly enjoyed books on ancient civilizations, clairvoyants and theological subjects.
She also was devoted to Cavachon dogs and leaves behind her beloved Pixie.
Strong family values, a sympathetic nature and an abundant capacity to love all contributed to her ability to relay wisdom, comfort others and teach all whom she encountered how to live a spiritual life. She truly examined the world with an open heart and we are grateful to have been blessed by knowing her.
In lieu of flowers, please make a generous donation to Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center.